Monday, October 27, 2008

Deepawali


In the abode of Gods…

Lakshmiji: Are you ready Ganesh?

Ganeshji: Yes, ma! Definitely I am, desperate to visit humans once again.

Lakshmiji: Hmm…hey, make sure you have fed your mouse sufficiently. You’ll be weighing a lot more on the return journey. Hahaha…

Ganeshji: C’on ma! Don’t tease me…These earth dwellers make such sweet offers that I can’t refuse them. And you know how much I avoid eating at those unhealthy places that belong to sinners.

Lakshmiji: Yeah, yeah I know!!!

Ganeshji: And ma, could you please bring your laptop along? Mine hung when I connected it to Chitragupta’s for updating the data on humans. So I had to get the data in the pen drive.

Lakshmiji: What??? Ganesh, putra how many times did I tell you not to choose that local Lenovo brand?

Lakshmiji waves her owl away.

Ganeshji: How could I know ma? These Chinese companies advertise themselves so much…Damn! I’ll be more careful next time. And guess what, Param pita Brahmaji got so annoyed when he saw this, that he cancelled Lenovo’s contract for networking in Devlok. He’ll soon be contacting those guys from CISCO for the same.
Lakshmiji’s owl arrives carrying her laptop.

Lakshmiji: Yeah, he better do that. I can’t stand the time lapse between these intra-swarg data transfers. And I’m not even sure what kind of reception we’ll be getting this year. After this entire slump in the American market, people are really in troubles this year.

Lakshmiji, switches the laptop on, and Ganeshji attaches the pen drive to copy the data.

Ganeshji: It’s not for the first time, and for the same reason they’ll be more eagerly waiting for you. But we better look out; these guys can really be cons. I wonder what people will ask for in the name of this slump.

Lakshmiji: Who cares??? We don’t have to succumb to all their demands, do we? Just look out for the honest guys, that’s it.

Both fly away. (Ganeshji’s mouse gallops in the space-time domain)

Lakshmiji: Talking of this slump, I think we must really be thankful to our other role Christ who takes care of the Americans. Else, I would have gone crazy doing all those Americans. And ever since the election campaign has started, people are talking more of Mccain and Obama rather then us. How I hate these elections…

Ganeshji: Relax, ma! Just a couple of weeks more, they shall be back in churches. But there’s just one problem!

Lakshmiji: What, son?

Ganeshji: They don’t offer such sweet prasad to us. If they would, I’ll be more lenient with them…

Lakshmiji: Hahaha…Ganesh, wait, after this Deepawali, I’ll go straight to Kailash and ask Parvati to put you on diet!

Ganeshji: No ma, please…

They enter the earth’s atmosphere.

Lakshmiji: Alright, here we go!

Both are flying above a city, where they see a beautifully lit and decorated house. A man is standing in front of the house, adoring the decorations and drawing a swastika and om on the gate of the house. Lakshmiji and Ganeshji fly down to the proximity of the man.

A small girl with a basket full of earthen lamps comes to the man.

Girl: Ram-ram sethji!

Sethji turns back.

Sethji: Ram-ram!

Girl: Wah-wah sethji! What a beautiful decoration you have done…and this rangoli…wah-wah.

Sethji: Thank You, my wife herself has made this rangoli to welcome Lakshmiji.

Lakshmiji passes a smile to Ganeshji, who is frowning.

Girl: But, there’s still something missing.

Sethji: What?

Girl: Deeye, sethji, deeye…where are the lamps? How can you celebrate Deepawali without a deepak??

Sethji: (Laughs) Chal hath, can’t you see that I’ve done so much lighting with these electric lights? Pata hai, I spent so much money on these Chinese lights…and you are telling me about deeyas? Beta, off you go, I don’t need any earthen lamp.

He mumbles to himself – Already there’s so much fiasco in the market, this deepawali has taken its toll on me, and on that these vendors…they don’t leave us!!!

Girl: Alright sethji, as you wish! I was just thinking of your well being, and I could have earned some money too.

Sethji: If its money you want, then I can give you some.
Sethji puts his hand in his pocket, brings out a purse and fetches a note out of it.

Girl: Na sethji na! I will not take any money that I have not earned. It is not right.

Sethji: Not right??? If you don’t have money, how will you celebrate deepawali?? Le beta, leja…else I’ll have to face the sin of driving a needy girl out of my home, that too on the night of deepawali.

Girl: No sethji! I’ll dare not touch the money that I am not worth of. And what is deepawali –holi for me? I believe in myself and my karma. Every day that I do my work honestly, is festive for me. Achha Sethji, chalti hun…ram-ram aur shubh deepwali!

‘Sethji’ watched the girl trace her path in darkness…

The Gods knew whom to follow…

Friday, October 24, 2008

The Sketch


The clouds had covered the deep blue sky all over. It was with effort, the sunlight was peeping from behind the curtain, strikingly clear. Wind was blowing mildly, the clouds had no destination but for the pity of wind.

“Chirrup, chirrup!
Chirrup, chirrup!”

The sound attracted me towards the source. Two little sparrows were playing on the roof beyond the window. For some of us solace is so easy…I was jealous of the birds.

Someone coughed and brought me back to life…I realized. Professor had already entered the room. Everyone had their sheets opened on their drawing tables, their drafters and drawing stuff on their tables. I fumbled with my things. By the time, ‘Sir’ was on my table passing instructions; I had my things propped up too. Back benching gains…

“Based on the details that you have crammed up in the last Hydraulic Machines Class, you’ll today draw the schematic diagram of water flow from a river water reservoir to the Pelton Wheel. Mention the dimensional and constructional details accurately…”

I had twisted my eraser to its maximum torque absorbing capability. Unable to absorb any more stress, it flew out of my hand to ground. When I looked up after picking it back, the Professor was glaring at me.

I snailed back two steps to my table.

‘Sir’ had gone back to his chair. “Be quick everyone, you better submit you sheets within 1 and ½ an hour, or be prepared to lose your internals”, he barked and went out of the room.

Relieved, I quickly turned around to look out of the window…the sparrows were gone.
I had lost them…

I would better do my work, I thought. Scribbling started on the sheet. The river reservoir and the tail stock were easy to draw. The wheel was easy to sketch too. The water shall have a clean flow in this figure, I laughed in my mind.

But there was something missing in the sheet.

Five minutes later, the Professor walked back in the room. Almost everyone had completed the sheet. He walked on inspecting everyone’s chart. He paused at my table, cruelly scanning my drawing.

“What is this, Mr. Gupta?”

“A pair of sparrows playing on the reservoir wall, sir.”

“Do you think they are a part of this mechanism?”

Before I could reply he ordered me to obliterate them and walked to the other row. Reluctantly, I erased the birds. But I was unable to put them out of my mind and out of the sheet. Man had, after all, encroached nature’s riches.

On the second round, the Professor made it a priority to visit my table. The sparrows were flying in the sky this time.

“It seems, Mr. Gupta, that you are hell bent on flunking this semester. I told you, I want to see those birds out of the sketch. Do it now!”

15 minutes later we were asked to submit our sheets on his table. I waited for my turn. He was watching me furiously, as I walked to his table. I turned my eyes down. He asked me to spread the chart in front of him.

I did…

An enraged slap met my face…

The sparrows had died alongside the river reservoir…

Friday, August 29, 2008

A Tale of Two Dads

Yesternight I was scruitnizing the pages of a book titled, "Rich Dad, Poor Dad". The author has critically analyzed how the middle class and the 'upper class' perceptions about money differ and how they influence one's life.

The emphasis on getting ample money has actually two ways, according to author:

1. You save money.
2. You generate money.

Quite interestingly, the advice(s) showered over him are courtesy his two dads. Of course, the American system of life has bestowed on him the privilege of being brought up by two dads.

More than the question - How can I generate money and achieve financial stability?, was intriguing the stark contrast between American and Indian ways of living.

The author has through out the book quoted the difference in the teachings of his two fathers, and tried to set an example for us. He obviously is not bothered by the fact that he is revealing much more of his private life to others than he ought to.

I mean, how would it sound if an Indian would be manifesting the divorce of his mother and then subsequent marriage to a man richer than the previous? Lolz...In two decades of my life, I'm yet to witness such an 'exemplary' phenomenon!!!

And then on Sunday there was an article in TOI by Shashi Tharoor explaining the bizzare fact that Americans look for a non-divorcee, non-drinker, non-smoker, a complete teetotaller person as their leader with a holier than thou attitude.

GOD BLESS AMERICA!
and their hippocracy.

PS: Save the Americans, I think we Indians are no less hypocrite. But I'll save that for the next time since I gotta rush for my class...
C ya ppl!!!

Thursday, August 28, 2008

'Gol Gol' Goals!!!


If you are serious about your goals, drop the conditions. Go directly to your goal. Be your goal! Conditions often disguise strategies for escaping accountability. Why not just take charge and create the experience you are looking for?

Eric Allenbaugh presented his thoughts really well that a reader, me for instance, could not just dare to move away from what he is reading. It even will cause you to pause for a moment and reflect how sensible and truthful it is. Well, this idea does not just apply to entrepreneurs but also to people from different walks of life. Have you ever thought of its relativeness to the cliche "If there’s a will, there’s a way!"? Precisely guys, if we have our goals - we have our will to that and so we must drop the conditions and find the way to achieve it. That made sense, right?

Have you ever wondered why athletes like Michael Phelps, Michael Jordan, Laance Armstrong, Michael Schumacher or even David Beckham are able to get what they want? With me, after doing research from journals and resources, I will share with you here.

1. Firstly, in order to be a master at your personal life, you need to know what you want. If you can't imagine or see it now, just ask yourself what would you want to see yourself as or what you want others to speak of you? Simpler, how would you want to feel..:)

Once you have that image, or words, whatever comes to mind, write in down on the piece of paper. (Largely)

Also, write at least three reasons why you want to achieve those goals.

2. Once you have done that, as you are listening and watching your favorite show, the next thing to do is to plan how are you going to reach your goal. What are the specific steps you need to take.

E.g. Cutting down $5.00 for your daily expenses. If you want to have a good relationship with your loved ones, spend 20 minutes communicating with them.

3. Step3Once you have done that, write down why you choose those steps. Give reasons as this will allow you to be aware of other alternatives route as well and widened your view.

4. Then, you will need to write down the resources you need to achive the goals. And by resorces, I mean things like energy, money, friends, opinions, books, magazines...the lists goes on. It can be anything that comes to mind now.

Write it down, and it would be best to have a love one next to you or someone whom you trust as you are doing this as this will create an excellent enviroment and of course they know your goal.

5. Lastly, evaluate whether with all those written down, are you able to achieve your goal? Yes/No.

If Yes, do a simple exercise. Take a deep breath and let it out, do this for 3 times. As you do so, close your eyes and vision as clearly as you can with all the sounds, feelings and emotions attached to it. Go into the future and wonder how this goal will help you, 6 months down the road...

If no, ask yourself why and re correct your goals. This could be due to you feeling torn apart at heart...

6. Once you ahve done that, promise to commit to yout steps to goal. Stay commited and focus on what you want, not what you don't want.

The Edible Goals...



Making a come back after such a long time has always been so exciting!!!
So lemme start afresh with something that I relish a lot...eating!With the advent of this new semester, here are a few of my goals (majority of them are about feeding myself)

1. Get back into blogging.

2. Blog much more about the amazing town that is Dwarahat.

#3 Eat a lot of paranthas now that the (quasi) diet is over. The goal is just geared towards the taste actually. Not wholegrain wheat, not rye, not pumpernickel, and even not potato bread. Now that I've tortured myself to hell for more than a month here's how its gonna be for the rest of the semester...

4. Make sure that my pizzas has tremendous caverns (or at least, substantial pockets) filled with melty cheese. And note the distinction between "melted" and "melty." There is a huge difference.

5. And yes, I'll be trying to put lots of pepparoni on the top of my pizza and take it in with gulps (gulps...???) of Coke!

Wishing myself a Happy Eating...

PS: Wait for the next episode of gyming or may be dieting. Phhheeww...its gonna be hard to shake my own inertia.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Anything multiplied by zero is zero

"Power will go to the hands of rascals, rogues and freebooters. All Indian leaders will be of low calibre and men of straw." Winston Churchill on the eve of Indian Independence.

Sometimes facts speak louder than comments. The following are some extracts from the Approach Paper to the 11th Five-Year Plan, prepared and published by the Planning Commission last year.

Coming from the highest echelons of the government, these remain an authentic and a grim reminder of what has gone wrong since Independence. Consider these dismal facts from this document of the Planning Commission:

1.Official poverty stands at 28 per cent. Significantly, one has to appreciate that the current definition of poverty is hopelessly inadequate. It is defined on the premise of whether a person can afford to consume 2,400 calories of food in rural India or 2,100 calories of food in urban India per day. Naturally, this limited definition ignores the other bare minimum necessities required for a decent living. Obviously, if one were to consider a more realistically defined poverty line, based on the basic needs for a decent living, the number of poor in India could be far more than the officially stated figure of 30 crore (300 million).
2.The abhorrent practice of manual scavenging continues even today.
3.Quality of education and curative health services are beyond the reach of the common man and those provided by the private sector are costly and of variable quality.
4.A major institutional challenge is that even where service providers exist, the quality of delivery is poor and those responsible for delivering the services cannot be held accountable.
5.In the health and education systems, there is a large number of staff vacancies that have not been filled up due to resource constraints.
6.The cost of displacements of our tribal population is high and the compensation tardy and inadequate.
7.Corruption is now seen to be endemic in all spheres and this problem needs to be addressed urgently.
8.The legal system in India is respected for its independence and fairness but it suffers from notorious delays in dispensing justice. Delays result in denial of justice.
9.Literacy rate is still below 70 per cent.
10.The most difficult task is to ensure good quality of instruction and the position in this respect is disturbing. A recent study found that 38 per cent of the children who have completed four years of schooling cannot read a small paragraph with short sentences meant to be read by a student of class 2. About 55 per cent of such children cannot divide a three-digit number by a one-digit number.
11.Drop out rate in primary schools for the country as a whole was at a staggering 31 per cent in 2003-04.
12.While some of our institutions of higher education compare well with the best in the world, the average standard is much lower.
13.India's infant mortality rates, under-five mortality rates, maternal mortality rates and immunisation rates are higher than that of Sri Lanka, China and Vietnam.
14.The biggest constraint in achieving a faster growth of manufacturing is the fact that infrastructure -- roads, railways, ports, airports, communication and electricity -- is not up to the standards prevalent in our competitor countries.
Indian roads are very accident-prone and claim a large number of lives representing an enormous human and economic loss.
155.The Accelerated Power Development and Reform Programme (APDRP) initiated in 2001 was expected to bring down AT&C losses to 15 per cent by the end of the Tenth Plan. In fact, the average for all states is closer to 40 per cent.

The net result is that today India languishes at the bottom half of the global Human Development Index (HDI) wedged between underdeveloped countries like Namibia, Sao Tome and Principe, and Solomon Islands. Even countries endowed with lesser amount of natural resources and lower calibre of human capital have performed better, perhaps even miraculously. This has been largely due to effective, responsive and effective governance. India definitely deserves better.

The net fiscal impact of the above. . .
Apart from the underperformance in the social sectors, the impact of the lack of governance needs to be understood in monetary terms too. The debt of the central government stands at approximately Rs 25 lakh crore (Rs 25 trillion) as at March 31, 2007: that is, 25 followed by 12 zeroes!

What needs to be further understood is that like an individual, a government too can borrow -- provided it has corresponding assets. It may be noted that the foreign debt comprised within this overall debt is still computed at historical costs (when the exchange rate was say Rs 16 per US $), thereby suppressing the aggregate by trillions of rupees.

Secondly, what is indeed appalling is that the government concedes that it has a liability aggregating to Rs 12 lakh crore (Rs 12 trillion) without corresponding assets. Finally, for the balance assets, no provision is made for depreciation. Net of depreciation, this figure would be even more abysmal. All these are further manifestations of our mis-governance.

Needless to emphasise, if this is the position of the central government, one can imagine the financial position of the state governments. The interest bill coupled with the salary burden has a debilitating impact on the finances of the State. Even a 'progressive' state government like Tamil Nadu spends approximately 70 per cent -- yes, 70 per cent -- of its revenues on the salary of its employees.

If salary were to be such a high proportion of the total revenues, there is hardly any sum available for development, which in turn depends on fresh borrowings. For the benefit of a mere 2 per cent of the population, the rest are taxed and in the name of government, we continue to suffer this absurdity silently.

It would appear that the government exists not for the greater good of the greater number, but greater good of its own employees. Such a model is purely unsustainable.

While one should not and cannot have an argument against increased State intervention in such matters -- the moot point is whether the State intervention is at all effective? If that were so, everything else would be justifiable. Unfortunately it is not and that calls for a rethink on the present model.

After all, anything multiplied by zero is zero.

This is simply because we have outsourced governance -- even if it were to the brightest minds in India -- the employees of the government. The fact of the matter remains that with no direct say on the outcome, governance has become the largest stumbling block for the prosperity of our own people.

Taking governance to the people

This is simply because our governmental system, largely being of British vintage -- centralised, corroded and constrained -- is largely unsuited for this country. Surely, the humungous nature of the challenges faced by a vast country with a size of a sub-continent and a billion people makes it impossible to be governed with a centralised system -- as the British system was and the present system is -- comprising a few million at Delhi, State capitals and district headquarters, usually uninterested, virtually unaccountable and predominantly corrupt.

So what needs to be done?
In this context, one is forced to recall the Manesar Declaration, which explicitly states: "The process of development is inherently political and if it is inequitable and non-participatory, it can actually create poverty. The objective of eradicating poverty can only be achieved through struggle in which people living in poverty are empowered to take control of their own lives and resources. People living in poverty, the majority of whom are women, are best able to identify the structural obstacles that perpetuate and accentuate poverty. In consequence, they are also best placed to set the agenda, to address these obstacles and to define solutions that can eradicate poverty."

The billion-dollar question now is: how to make governance participatory?
The solution to the above lies in thinking beyond the current template. This can be done through a grand design of involving the Panchayathi Raj Institutions (PRIs) as a delivery mechanism. Unfortunately, PRIs are largely ornamental pieces of legislation in an otherwise sublime Constitution. We need to leverage these institutions and churn the system so as to make the development projects the responsibility of these local bodies and 'un-bundle' the State and central governments of the same.

Unfortunately, under the present three-tiered Constitution, responsibilities are mostly vested with the Central or the State or both, with very little functional mandate extended to the third tier, viz., the PRIs.

The spirit of Part IX of the Constitution, which deals with the PRIs, goes beyond the concept of political empowerment. It is a majestic idea towards self-governance. By design it is the State (hence eminently suited for the purpose) in all its majestic manifestation but with a vital difference -- by its very design it will be 'participatory,' especially in a country like India.

The time for unleashing the power of the idea of PRIs has come. It has to be noted such an empowerment of the PRIs must include direct fund transfer by both the State and the central governments -- of all possible developmental programmes.

Importantly, the crucial role of developmental process must be piloted by the PRIs. Naturally, it would at once trigger a movement for grassroots democracy and with it developmental economics to flourish.

Our resistance to change and vested interests that feed on the extant system mean that the PRIs are essentially non-starters even after two decades since their introduction in the statute book.

It has to be noted that the ideas as suggested above, though illustrative, could well trigger a massive movement as the programmes are meaningfully under the control of the intended beneficiaries. One sincerely believes that this is the only way out to deal with imperial demand of India's social sector. Else Winston Churchill will continue to chuckle.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

The Onus


"Stop staring at me."

"But...I am hungry!!!"

"And so am I, now go away and let me eat."

"Please, I've not eaten for 3 days..."

Just as I was going to sink my teeth in the parantha, this relentless cry from the girl stopped me. She looked pale, thin and anything if it could get thinner then thin.

I knew she was not lying, but I was hungry. So what if I didn't give her my meal, she could beg anyone...where would I get a new parantha from??? There was a long day ahead and I had loads of work to do.

But she had a long life ahead...long, endless life of penury. I tried to move on, she kept following me. I tried to escape, but my feet...they suddenly felt heavier. The integrity of my character had left me, and left behind was the onus. I was looking around for help, if only my savior could come and save me from this...

People looked at me, and continued on their trajectories. I wonder if the feeling in their eyes was of guilt, compassion or abhorrence...was it directed at me or the destitute girl?

The chauraha was near, I quickened my pace. For the last time I turned my head and looked at the girl. Her eyes were still pleading, and her torn clothes, bared her own story. I stepped on the road, turned back again (and then cursed myself for that all day).

Out of the blue, I stretched my hand, almost throwing my meal at her...and then just ran away. I didn't have the courage to look back at her anymore.

"I've given you my meal...its you who should be saying sorry for taking away what I already had, but then why am I feeling sorry for you???", the voice kept bellowing in my mind all the morning.

Friday, May 23, 2008

Law Enforcement and Us


We fear our own protectors(police) as they can misuse the law.
We think law enforcement will encourage the revenge attacks.
We think some laws can be used against some minorities (read minorities = muslim).
We fear politicians will reach a new level of law-misuse if laws get more power.
We, most Indians don’t like our own country. (<— I know this is a WRONG claim but wait, I have some explanation.)
We have lost and do not believe anything related to patriotism or something like that.
We say , ” Why should I bother” for any social issue which is not harming us.
And now I ask the same question again, “Are we ready? Really?”



Is that all? no, we have many good thoughts too.
I know this sounds pessimistic and negative but please note that I am NOT a pessimist nor I am negative. Its just summary of what I have been experiencing. I don’t deny that there are many people who do not fall in the category listed above. We have much population who thinks we are a powerful country which needs some tweaking. But still India has most of population in Rural areas.
Poor people and farmers feel feeding their family is more important than caring about so called ’social problems’. Middle-class think that they are better in current conditions. I don’t know about Higher class people.

Some people don’t like this country:
About my little off-head statement above, I owe some explanation. I said some people do not like our own country. Yes, that's the fact. There are MANY who really think that being born in India is their life’s biggest problem. They detest this country, they detest everything in here. Who are they? As I have met some, most of these haters are High-educated people. Some MBA, Engineers, IITians , Doctors, and more. They think their so called talent is being wasted here. They may not be the case with all of 'them', but is with a lot 'us'.
How we are supposed to be making progress of any kind if our Talented Brains are leaving us? Common people look at educated youngsters with pride. And this generation, our generation is not aware of it, may be just a sect of us is...

Back to the point again!
Do you remember the dialog in Movie “Swades” where ShahRukh Khan says, “….everyone in this country is talking about how our country is going down and not progressing, everyone says that Nothing can be done, no one can help this country………”
Well, I really agree with the dialog. This is what we are doing. We are morally discouraging our own country. We need to do some brainwash and cleaning of Indian minds before we start acting against terrorism. And unless and until we start believing that we CAN always DO something for India, we are not ready for anything!!!

Thursday, May 22, 2008

The Dilemma


It was my 24th year on this planet. Life was seemingly...good - I had a bungalow, a car, a job with a reputed IT firm, a fat pay package and on top of that, a girlfriend!!!

But something was missing. I didn't know what it was, or even why I missed it. But there was this undeniable void. While everyone envied me for always having the best of things, deep in the abyss of my mind I was envious of them.

The feeling gripped me hard, didn't let me sleep for nights, let alone the nightmares. Sometimes, it was so overwhelming that I felt like committing suicide.

And then, one day God spared his/her time to glance through this of his/her creations. I wonder which of my qualities (or my quandry) drew him/her to me...But yes, he/she took pity and decided to alter my acuities.

Dressed as a modern Guru, came he/she down. His/Her thoughts swept me off my feet, or rather my brain. And then...and then there was light.

Now, I know that the greatest battles of one's life are fought within. The purpose of sending us incarnated as humans was not only to make 'our' life better only. This was meant to serve a higher purpose. 'We' are meant to serve a higher purpose. There's more to our life than just being us, we are meant to make the world a better place to live - for others and for ourselves. There remains a lot to do...

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Religious Revolution...



As you probably know, I’m not much for organized religion. I have been convinced a supernatural being overseeing everything is extremely unlikely and natural selection is quite likely.

Don’t argue with me. You will either lose the debate on evidence or you will simply decide to ignore the evidence. Either way, you go on and live the way you want. I’m not into telling people their religious rituals are wastes of time. If they give you comfort, more power to you. Just don’t try and convince me it’s your way or the highway.

However, I have been thinking about how one should live their life. I don’t believe we get our morals from the Bible, the Qur’an or any other “holy” book. In fact, our religious indoctrination many times skews our perception of right and wrong i.e. murder the infidels, catholics, jews, etc.

The ten commandments are fine for Sunday School lessons or debating the difference between Thou Shall Not Kill and Thou Shall Not Commit Murder. It’s fine in a philosophy or religion class, but I’m not interested in having them in my public places or thrust at me like they are the “be all” of righteousness.

So, I wanted to create a new version. None of this “Thou Shalt Not...” crap. I want edicts on what you should do to live a good life, not what you can’t do. Here’s what I came up with: Sean’s Nine Tenants for Living A Good Life.

The first three are how we deal with one another.

Don’t do to others, what you don’t want done to you.

I prefer the Confucius version rather than “The Golden Rule” version. This is the greatest catch-all. It means be kind and decent to each other. Respect one another.

Love one another.

This is the central message of the New Testament. Take out the hocus pocus and mumbo jumbo and this is what Jesus is saying. I like this and it sounds a lot better than Bill and Ted’s similar “Be Excellent To Each Other...” It also means we can’t discriminate love in all its various shapes and forms.

Be tolerant of others who are different from you.

Most religious conflicts are based entirely on two groups who believe in something just a little bit different from the other and their “Good Books” tell them to kill the infidels (Never mind that Thou Shalt Not Kill commandment...). Hate crimes are especially heinous because the crime committed was specifically targeted toward someone different be it a minority, nationality, sexuality or gender. Tolerance is something the world could use in abundance.

The middle three focus on how we should deal with societal and cultural situations.

In all things, be fair-minded.

Everyone wants to be treated fairly. Too many people buy unfair advantages and too many people fall through the cracks of unfair practices and circumstances.

In all things, keep an open mind.

I hate people who are closed minded. Having a narrow view severely limits the potential for understanding. The ability to change your mind when new information is presented is one of the greatest capacities of the human brain. Far too many people have a narrow worldview and that’s sad.

In all things, administer appropriate justice and forgive wrongdoing honestly regretted.

I want justice for all and I want my justice to be blind to special interests, money or fame. I believe people make mistakes and should be given second chances. However, I’m not a big fan of third, fourth and fifth chances.

The last three are personal rules.

Do no intentional harm.

Taken straight from the Physician’s Creed. I’d like to think everyone could use it as a personal mantra.

Continue to learn.

I shudder when I think of the masses who don’t read books or newspapers. More people can name the last American Idol winner than the last five Presidents. I want a world where continuous learning is a virtue. Encouraging the bettering of one’s mind just seems like something everyone should strive to do.

Treat the environment with respect and take the long view of existence.

No, I’m not an environmental crazy. However, I do feel the environment needs to be protected today and for future generations. It is exceedingly difficult for people to think in thousands of years. I don’t have trouble thinking just a generation down the line. Maybe its because I like science fiction and extrapolating the future, but I wonder what life will be like for my grandkids.

Do you have something better to add???

Halla Bol


Ang Ang Jakhmi Hai Tera, Lamha Lamha Faryaadi Hai
Khol Jubaan Abb Khol Abb Bolane Ki Tujhko Aazaadi Hai
Jo Himaat Na Haare, Woh Jindagi Sawaare
Chal Dikhaade Saari Duniya Ko Tere Saanson Mein Bhi Hai Aandhi
Jab Tak Hai Dum Me Dum Dum Dum Me Dum, Aage Badhaalo Apane Kadam

Ik Jurm Hai Pyaare Julmon Ko Sehna Bhi
Aawaav Uthaao Laajim Hai Ladhana Bhi
Bujdil Insaan Ko Jinda Nahi Kehte
Paththar Banaata Hai Ghaamosh Rehna Bhi
Jo Himaat Na Haare, Woh Jindagi Sawaare
Chal Dikhaade Saari Duniya Ko Tere Saanson Mein Bhi Hai Aandhi
Jab Tak Hai Dum Me Dum, Dum Dum Mein Dum, Aage Badhaalo Apane Kadam

Ho Gayi Hai Pir Parwat Se Pighanani Chaahiye
Is Himaalay Se Koi Ganga Nikalani Chaahiye
Jab Tak Hai Dum Me Dum, Dum Dum Mein Dum, Aage Badhaalo Apane Kadam
Sirf Hungaama Khada Karna Mera Maqsad Nahi
Meri Koshish Hai Ke Yeh Surat Badalani Chaahiye
Jab Tak Hai Dum Me Dum, Dum Dum Mein Dum, Aage Badhaalo Apane Kadam
Mere Sine Mein Nahi Toh Tere Sine Mein Sahi
Ho Kahin Bhi Aag Lekin Aag Jalani Chaahiye

Jo Himaat Na Haare, Woh Jindagi Sawaare
Chal Dikhaade Saari Duniya Ko Tere Saanson Mein Bhi Hai Aandhi
Jab Tak Hai Dum Me Dum, Dum Dum Mein Dum, Aage Badhaalo Apane Kadam....



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Science or Religion

How are you doing today, people?

Bored?

What do you have to be bored about?

Hey, come on lets get our hands over this newspaper before anyone tries and steal it from my doorstep!!!

Thanks.

Hey! Look at what this letter to the editor says.

And then tell me what’s wrong with it.

“…intelligent design cannot be taught in our elementary schools because it is a religious concept. And religion is the opposite of science.”

Mmmm, no. It’s this part about religion being the opposite of science.

First of all, people don’t even know what the word means.

“Opposite” means two things that are contrary to each other. Why, there are few things so much alike as science and religion.

Science grew out of religion for heaven’s sake!

When the earliest civilization was still cradling and suckling on nature's breasts, Paganism and then Hinduism flagmarched towards the future, propagating the cause of Science and Humanity. Even in the “Dark Ages”, the Christian Faith, only a few generations old, was struggling to keep the peoples of Europe from slipping into complete anarchy and starvation.

This new religion had something really different going for it. It believed that all of reality was operating in accordance with a Natural Law set forth by a single, omnipotent God.

So what?

So this means that we could try to find out what that natural law was. In fact, it was a spiritually good thing to go try to do.

Crops could be better. We could keep time better. New machines could help people survive and thrive.

So at the very root of both science and religion lies a simple article of faith.

Yeah, OK. Here’s the comics section. Now be quite a minute while I read these other letters to the editor.

Teardrops

I walk alone in shadows
so dark, wet, and cold,
wrapped tight to hide my fears,
so no one else may know.

Long hard burdens I have heavily born
On wide shoulders broadly set,
Outer clam must firmly reign,
While serenity is tattered and shorn.

Then teardrops come like falling rain
And wash from face my resolve,
revealing pains once hidden unseen,
Internally twisted with stress and strain.

Oh how I wish for a perfect rain
With which to hide these tears,
To make me whole once more,
And wash away my lingering pain .

Fight your fears

It is a competitive world today, people are trying harder and harder to race ahead of their contemporaries. Still we come across some who are unable to work to their full potentials. One of the few factors for this issue is a sense of fear within them. Fear is a feeling, which is present in most, only the reason of fear varies from person to person. It can be fear of failure, ridicule, mistake etc.

Even those who are very thriving in their lives, suffer the sting of fear. Fear of losing that they have, their rivals getting ahead of them or it can be something else. Although over a period of time, such individuals learn how to handle these fears. However, there are many out there who live in fear day in and day out.

Fear is an emotion that is not always destructive. In some cases it works to a person’s advantage. It prevents us from getting overconfident and taking things for granted. Such fear is good for all of us, but what is not good is the fear that stops us from realizing our dreams. We tend to postpone our plans; try to pass on the responsibility onto others or simply try to break away from our duties. One might highly misjudge such a person to be lazy, who loves to sit idle. They may not understand the reason for such a behavior is the fear that resides within an individual.

Now the question arises is, how do we get rid of such an intense emotion out of our lives? Firstly we need to understand the reason for our fears. There could be various reasons like one’s upbringing, failures in the past or our egos. It’s not just difficult but impossible to let go of fear in one day. It does take some time to get the sprite of fear out of our system. To begin with, we need to get into the root of our fears. Once we understand the reason it will be easier to fight against it. To find out the reason is half skirmish won.

For instance, if you are not contented talking in front of a large crowd. You realize this is because once in the past you spoke something irrelevant and people laughed at you. To take this example further, this might have happened long back probably then your acquaintance about things was limited, unlike now. Go ahead and give yourself some more try. Even if you are not the champion of the day your fear of public speaking will be reduced to quite an extent. REPEAT DOING THINGS THAT YOU FEAR.

Fighting your fears is first recognizing and then eliminating it. It might not be as easy as it sounds here. However it only takes a stern and continuous attempt on your part. Always remember, “What differentiates audacious people from cowards is not the lack of fear but the will to continue even after being frightened”.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Dating and Mating

We theorize about Indian women. What they want, who they want, and why they don’t want decent Indian guys. Some will go for generic desi men (all wear the same cologne, all have the same haircut, all have that smarmy feel about them while going about their cookie-cutter careers). Others despise their own and go for non-Indians. But none seem to go for dudes like Sonny (except for the occasional half-white half-Indian girl. True story).

Every once in a while, Sonny has tried to figure this out. He’s not generic, yet he’s not washed. He’s aware and proud of his identity, but he grew up with friends and colleagues who were mostly not Indian. Like many of our friends, he’s balanced. And that doesn’t seem to fly.

Fortunately (or not, depending on your perspective), Sonny recently heard the gospel from the source. His desi friend’s girlfriend, a mainstream Indian gal, had guts enough to tell him how it is from the American brown female’s POV, delivering the news like an ice-cold sledgehammer to the groin.

Why am I posting this? Because if you’re anything other than the generic Indian American male, it could apply to your groin as well.

“Parul” said that guys like Sonny simply don’t fit in. How’s that, he wondered. He’s smart, a business professional, and from a good family. And after “business professional” (re: has money), usually only one more piece of credibility is required. But Parul said that there was more to the story. It’s not what Sonny is, but who he is, that makes him an “unsuitable boy.”

Sonny, as you know from previous columns, lives in Vegas and partakes of its splendors. And that’s not just the water and fountain show in front of the Bellagio. He enjoys the occasional drink (three out of four weekends). He gambles. He carouses with friends into the late hours at establishments known for their scantily clad female hostesses. On the plus side, he’s a good tipper.

He’s known for speaking his mind, often times loudly, though articulately, even when his speech is laced with profanities. Like many of us, he does not feel the need to apologize for hanging out with his friends, whether they’d be part of the “in crowd” or not. He cherishes his 100% unmitigated freedom, and he expects that any girl he’s with will take 100% freedom for herself as well. Essentially, he’s like any one of us who’s confident in himself and his life and doesn’t feel the need to be tied down. If you’re not so insecure that you “need” to be with someone, and if you enjoy the single life (even if you’d go for the right girl if she came along), then you understand him.

And that’s why, Parul said, Sonny should forget about Indian women. She told him to look outside the race. And if he really wanted an Indian girl, he’d have to go for an open-minded one. “The kind,” she said, “who dates white guys.”

He could barely keep down his beer nuts.

As witty counterarguments such as “Yo fuck you” percolated in his head, Parul explained that most Indian girls wanted to settle down. They wanted a guy with good values–family values. Sonny, on the other hand, enjoyed his vices. He was, in effect, too “out of control.” And desi women just wouldn’t go for that. So he needed to drop them. Because they’d already dropped him.

He reflected on his experience and the collective experiences of his friends. And, in time, he agreed. That would explain a lot. He may be a young professional, but his career is not as appealing as a banker or doctor. He’s not easily cowed, and he’s not a lapdog waiting for a leash. He’s not clinging to his mom’s apron, and his family’s very independent and expects the same of him.

In short, he’s not the typical dominated desi guy just looking to settle down (or just “settle.” Or perhaps “be settled”). And from Parul’s words, typical is what the normal Indian girl wants.

I know some women who are counterexamples. Now, my first impulse would be to say “They must be the kind who don’t date Indian men period.” But there actually are free thinking desi women who want brown men. Yes, these Indian girls might have dated outside the race, or at least entertained the idea. But at least they’re not the kind of girls who date other races because they hate Indo men. Some of them are just open minded and looking for a fully developed person to be with, not some Indian embryo still attached to his mother’s uterus who works at a hedge fund during the day.

However, these gems are few and far between. For now, all we know is that you have to have “family values” to be a suitable mate. Whether that literally means “You should want to be a good husband and good father and look forward to overpopulating the earth because I literally value family” or whether that’s a veiled term for “Be a companion in a marriage that’s one step better than arranged, be willing to be domestic and harangued, have a good career that takes care of us and any future kids we’ll feel compelled to have, and be someone I can present to my parents and gossiping backstabbing friends so I fit in with everyone”…. That’s your call. Maybe it somehow relates to true love. I fully believe that two people can be in a loving and passionate relationship where they both want to be settled together (I am in such a relationship, though “settled” is a relative term). However, it’s telling that, when Sonny said he has to be madly in love or not be in a relationship at all, and that he was fine being alone if it came to it, Parul simply couldn’t understand.

But, if you’re a doctor or businessman who likes being with someone for the sake of putting down roots, so you can make your family happy and fall in line with your friends (and more likely, your wife’s friends who did the same thing), and if you don’t feel like thinking for yourself about anything (or if your thoughts really don’t extend past your wallet), then congratulations:

You, apparently, are the most desirable Indian man.

Studying Indian + Aunties + Sex

I find myself amazed at the number of verbs that can be used in conjunction with “sex.” We do sex, make sex, and sexy with others. Note that, because we rarely use the word “fuck” on our blog, we probably lose a number of potential hits to actual hardcore porn sites. I wonder if those in India use the word “fuck” or something else that I have not yet heard. My favorite cousin is too young to know these words (or maybe not, but I’m not sure how I’d broach that subject to the 14-year-old male pubescent). Any suggestions on what the slang is?

And is anyone else slightly disturbed by how aunties can be sexualized? Back off haters, I’m not saying that older Indian women lose their sexuality. However, any woman I refer to as “auntie” is not a sexual being to me because of the basis of that relationship. It’s one step away from “sister” or “mother,” both of which also cannot be sexual beings in the context of my relationship to them. Someone else’s? Sure. Not mine. End defensive stance.

But is this just a small sect that digs aunties and Indian cougars, and is it dwarfed by those who seek sketchy pictures of Indian women their own age (most likely)? Or is there some weird Oedipal Freudian infatuation going on? Indian women usually say that the brown men are too attached to their mothers. I tend to agree, but to this extent? Maybe women about to get married need to check their husbands’ browser histories.

The exact demographic of the users would be interesting to know. I only can assume younger Indian males because I doubt older Indian men 1) call women “aunties” and 2) know how to use the internet quite so proficiently for their sexual curiosities. I’m sure someone has a story that proves otherwise.

Something to remember here is that, no matter how we are making sex in the motherland, it’s getting done. Facing it is the only way to promote safe behaviors. Like this brilliant public service announcement.

As quoted in BBC South Asia’s examination of the public school sex ed debate in India, I leave you with the words of the great Federal Health Minister Anbumani Ramadoss:


“In our country, we do sex. But we don’t want to talk about it and that is why we have a billion population.”

Like the man says, whether you’re doing that sex with aunties or others, it’s good to confront the realities. Keep it safe and keep it real.

Unless it’s my auntie.

Monday, March 24, 2008

Again at crossroads...

I've just been told that I scored 78.4% marks in my last semester, probably the highest in my batch!!! Screw me, the bombs get dropped when you are expecting them the least...lolz

But did i really toil hard enough for these marks, or is it just another fluke of my life??Just like the rank in GATE that I am sure, I didn't deserve. Just 20 days of rigorous candor, and my luck paid off. If only, it was this easy in other walks of life as well.

And now as always, and as a true Libran (shit, am I proud of being that) I once again find myself circling this crossroad in the ascent of my career - Where to, should I take the next step??
Should I stay faithful to my trade, my graduation subjects, my faculties and to my perviously 'decided' mind and continue with the darker, the technical side of my mind (did it sound like, I'm describing Ravana?)
Or should I switch myself to the more glamorous world of Management, just because the perks carry higher and fatter cheques, dwell in exotic locations and hopefully amongst bikni clad women...

Was I not always taught that work and not money should be the top priority of one's life? How and why do people expect me to forget the lessons that have been cintered in me ever since I started showing wings?

LOLz...off late, my life has been haunted by lots and lots of why's'!!! I wonder if I would ever be able to answer them...

Graffiti...

As a rule a man's a fool;
When it's hot he
wants it cool;
When it's cool he
wants it hot.
Always wanting
what is not.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

I cried in rain...

Music of thunder filled our ears that night,

Drenched by the torrent were we.

Droplets like dew,

Rolling down your beautiful face,

Passing the knife sharp nose,

Down to those luscious lips,

Fading in sacred of places.



Shivering with cold and heated by love,

Hoaxed by water,

Visible was your gorgeous curves.

Inhaling your freshness,

Disappearing were those soaked clothes with my,

Act of larcenous.

Downpour was orchestrating the act of love making.



Gone are those days, with a heavy heart,

That still misses you my sweetheart.

Still I like sound of thunder,

That reminds you,

In my heart deep under.

No one will notice my pain,

Because thinking of you, I cried in rain.

Achievable goals...

The key to happiness is setting achievable goals. For example, I think a bad goal is trying to find enlightenment, or becoming one with the universe. That has hard work written all over it. I was thinking about this recently because of the story in the news about the 35-year old woman who stayed in her bathroom until her skin fused with the molecules in the toilet seat.

http://edition.cnn.com/2008/US/03/13/woman.in.bathroom.ap/index.html

While it might be hard to become one with the universe, apparently it is easier to become one with your own toilet. All you need is a boyfriend who is willing to slip pizzas under the door.

While we’re on the topic of the boyfriend, I also think he did a good job of setting his goals low in terms of girlfriends. If you’ve ever had a high maintenance relationship, I think you can appreciate the subtle beauty of his arrangement. This fellow found a girlfriend who never complained. Can you top that?

I see this woman as a pioneer in the evolution of humankind. Her life might sound boring to you, but imagine if she had a laptop in there, with a wireless Internet connection. Suddenly a bad idea starts to look rather brilliant. For most of us, moving from place to place is usually about seeking food, bathroom breaks, employment, conversation, sexual stimulation, and returning to the computer. That’s a lot of time wasted moving around. A laptop and a toilet can satisfy all of those needs. You can even order food online. I’m not ready to make that sort of commitment yet myself, but I’d be lying if I told you I didn’t give it some serious thought.

Tear your resumes...

This is controversial, but here goes: I think if you're remarkable, amazing or just plain spectacular, you probably shouldn't have a resume at all.

Not just for my little internship, but in general. Great people shouldn't have a resume.

Here's why: A resume is an excuse to reject you. Once you send me your resume, I can say, "oh, they're missing this or they're missing that," and boom, you're out.

Having a resume begs for you to go into that big machine that looks for relevant keywords, and begs for you to get a job as a cog in a giant machine. Just more fodder for the corporate behemoth. That might be fine for average folks looking for an average job, but is that what you deserve?

If you don't have a resume, what do you have?

How about three extraordinary letters of recommendation from people the employer knows or respects?
Or a sophisticated project they can see or touch?
Or a reputation that precedes you?
Or a blog that is so compelling and insightful that they have no choice but to follow up?

Some say, "well, that's fine, but I don't have those."

Yeah, that's my point. If you don't have those, why do you think you are remarkable, amazing or just plain spectacular? It sounds to me like if you don't have those, you've been brainwashed into acting like you're sort of ordinary.

Great jobs, world class jobs, jobs people kill for... those jobs don't get filled by people emailing in resumes. Ever.

Saturday, March 15, 2008

Why should we not love???

It’s easy to understand why we should not love if you have understood the previous parts, esp. LOVE 5 & 6. There are some reasons why we love [LOVE 5] and these are not always the same with why we should love [LOVE 6]. So there must be some reasons why we should not love.



a) We should not love someone we can ‘live with’ just because we have to love someone, without any feeling of love for her/him.



b) We should not love someone in a hurry out of the thought what others will think if they know that we are single. It is rather ridiculous to pervert our own feelings for others’ opinions.



c) We should not love someone just because (s)he loves us (i.e. if not mutual love). Sometimes we feel that if I don’t love the one who loves me, then how can I be sure that the one I love will also love me? It can be true, but not a universal truth.



d) We should not love out of the thought that if we let the ‘chance’ go (if chance comes, of course), we may not get another chance. Once again, it can be true, but not a universal truth. And I must repeat, having or not having ‘chances’ should not be the reason to love or not to love.



e) Once again, there might be other opinions also in this list, depending upon individuals.



To say the least, one should not love someone if (s)he does not love her/him.

We invent and then they do...

Men discovered COLOURS and invented PAINT,

Women discovered PAINT and invented MAKEUP.


Men discovered the WORD and invented CONVERSATION,

Women discovered CONVERSATION and invented GOSSIP.


Men discovered GAMBLING and invented CARDS,

Women discovered CARDS and invented WITCHERY.


Men discovered AGRICULTURE and invented FOOD,

Women discovered FOOD and invented DIET.


Men discovered FRIENDSHIP and invented LOVE,

Women discovered LOVE and invented MARRIAGE.


Men discovered TRADING and invented MONEY,

Women discovered MONEY and invented SHOPPING.


Thereafter Men have discovered and invented a lot of things...

While Women STUCK to shopping.